No one likes to be around a gloomy person.
July 26, 2009 - 9:30pm
Dr. Light has patients? That he'd flirt with?
I also never knew it was possible to flirt via High Efficiency lighting.
July 27, 2009 - 10:36am
#2
Wtf? Tailor-made lightbulbs?
July 31, 2009 - 10:29am
#3
Blah blah blah high beams blah blah
August 5, 2009 - 7:23pm
#4
Awwwww Balls :x
August 5, 2009 - 7:27pm
#5
SO YEAH
NO ONE LIKES TO BE AROUND A GLOOMY PERSON
And at parties, I am totally that person. I think it might be because I have that thing? That ear thing? I have problems pulling conversations out from ambient background noise, and this makes every conversation I attempt a "what"? "Sorry what was that?" kind of mess.
Also, not being very good at carrying on casual conversations in general has been a problem.
SO WHAT ARE YOUR FAVOURITE CONVERSATION STARTERS?
If I'm drunk enough, I usually ask people how they know whoever it is that I know, and I hope to God that they are better at conversations than I am. D:
August 6, 2009 - 8:34am
#7
I don't really have any set conversation starters. I pretty much go with whatever comes to mind. Drinking games are great ways to get to know people, or at least make chatting with them less awkward.
August 6, 2009 - 8:03pm
#8
I don't know what that thing is called either, Jam, but I have very narrow ear canals and that cause me to have trouble hearing people over lots of background noise as well. I dislike parties because of it and tend to be a wallflower. Also, I've not been to many concerts that have been comfortable experiences.
As far as conversation starters, I don't have any of those either. I will try to pick something obvious, but hate having to start things.
August 14, 2009 - 1:21pm
#9
Ditto on the whole 'lack of hearing over music'. That's one of the reasons why I hate clubs.
As far as icebreakers goes, I have the fallback "Hi, I'm foreign and have nice teeth."
It works about as well as you'd expect.
August 14, 2009 - 7:11pm
#10
I too dislike loud places... only bar I go to belongs to a friend and is usually quiet.
August 24, 2009 - 10:59pm
#11
A good conversation starter is [walk nonchalantly up to the person you wish strike up a conversation with] "Well, I'm certainly glad I wore my good socks today. How about you?" (bad luck if you are wearing sandals)
Most people worth having a conversation will respond to this in a positive/curious/good-sense-of-humor kind of way. The people that try to ignore you because the think you are weird are probably far to boring to come up with a good retort to that and therefore cannot even carry on a conversation. Laughter is good response, silence is their embarrassment response for something they know nothing about. (Maybe sandals would make it even better on the person. Hmmm... New theory I will test it out and get back to you.)
August 25, 2009 - 2:16pm
#12
I lost my best conversation starter moving back to Canada.
"Hi I'm Canadian" worked wonders. On the other hand using a Canadian flag as a cape and saying " I am Canada-man. I shoot maple syrup from my nipples" Didn't work as well.
August 25, 2009 - 8:33pm
#13
JusticeJuice wrote: I shoot maple syrup from my nipples
What did you do when people asked you to prove it?
August 25, 2009 - 9:37pm
#14
Ask them to supply the warm fluffy pancakes of course.
August 26, 2009 - 8:50am
#15
"Hi, I'm Canadian!"
"Yeah, and...???"
August 26, 2009 - 9:41am
#16
I never encountered a unenthusiastic response.
It shocked them and had them asking question after question.
What part? Do you have thanksgiving? Do you have states and stuff or is it just one big country? was my favorite.
August 17, 2010 - 11:57pm
#17
I'm wearing my good socks" line made me laugh, I can soo imagine that would get a lot of great responses.
And I have actually met a Canadian he was awesome... and this must of course mean all canadians are awesome...no wait I also worked with one other... he was a bit drab.. nice but not much fun... so this averages out then. Canadians are average ;)
(Oh and if you think having met just two canadians seems odd, I am Norwegian... you know Norway where we actually had snow at our winter olympics ;)
But back to topic, yes gloomy people at parties I tend to try and hunt them down and force a conversation on them ;) in a good way.. if they don't engange after a bit of friendly banter them I write them off as no-fun-today-lets-try-when-they-are-sober-people
My favorite way of starting a conversation is basically just jumping in to the middle of one and comment on something completely irrelevant.. and then we're off. And since I am often found wearing a kilt (Utility Kilt, ie. not one with a scottish tartan on it)People generally tend to enquire as to what level of insanity made me wear it ,) and yes yes... I have had all the questions asked of me that can be accosiated with wearing one.
But I agree with people that music in clubs are a serious hinderance to conversation... I think this is deliberate... since let's assume there is at least 50% idiots (probably more) in the clubs and alcohol alone is not enough to mitigate their preceived level of stupidity.. so to allow them a chance with the opposite sex, clubs play loud music. So that even if they speak their level of stupidity is not known to anyone else other than those in close proximity to the initial transmission.. with a low chance of it being relayed further also.
But for us funny intelligent people this is nothing more than an annoyance and we must put a stop to it.
I could probably continue to write more in this post but I seem to stray of topic a bit ;) and since I am actually at work perhaps I should get some work done...
August 19, 2010 - 11:33am
#18
I worked with a guy who said that the best way of pulling a girl was to wear a kilt. We laughed at him heartily until he laid out his reasoning. He said, "Wearing a kilt says that you are secure enough in your sexuality to wear a skirt in public, and eventually some girl is going to come up to you and ask what you wear underneath. Tell her 'there's only one way to find out'. Once she is holding onto your nutsack, it's a sure thing."
I can't fault any part of that logic.
August 18, 2010 - 8:35am
#19
I'm a lot like Jay, I like geeky things and most social gathering aren't renown for being filled with geeky people, so usually I feel very unconfortable at parties where I don't know the people, heck, sometimes I feel unconfortable at places where I do know the people...
When I'm with my close friends I tend to open up some more, but if there is even one person I don't know I tend to close back up around them... And I found that alcohol doesn't work, it does very little for my inhibitions...
But I don't actually consider myself a gloomy person though, if someone tries to strike up a conversation I will do my best to try and keep up.
August 19, 2010 - 11:04pm
#20
When in a large gathering of people I tend to rely on being introduced to the group by a mutual friend and led into conversations. If I don't know the group that well I'll be the gloomy person off to the side, if I know everyone...I'm kinda that crazy person that randomly lights stuffed animals on fire and plays practical jokes on people. Polar opposites yes but it all depends on the comfort zone.
August 31, 2010 - 6:21am
#21
I am completely the same and would probably be classed as the gloomy person, but it is a struggle in large groups of people, especially when i dont know them.
She's got a nice pair of florescent bulbs, if ya know what I mean...